“It’s hard to be me” was a friend’s status on Facebook recently. People commented to her status by agreeing that being a human is indeed difficult. That’s true. Even a human baby’s life is difficult coming to think of it. There are just so many challenging milestones to achieve and so much pain (hello, new teeth) to endure: yes, there are more to it than just the “eat, play, sleep and poop” routine. My comment to her status was a rather gender-biased fact: “if it is hard being a human, then it is 10 times harder being a woman”. She agreed to that, totally.
No, I am not a bra-burner and this post is not at all intended to bicker on the outdated notion that men lead a better life than their female counterparts. I think we woman are so over that cliché now that it is globally recognized that a woman can lead a positively engaging life if she has a will to do so.
Yet, no matter how powerful, how busy, how talented or how an all-rounder a woman is, she needs attention, recognition and simply some TLC (tender loving care) from her partner. Well, let’s face it – there are many types of woman out there and I can only speak for those who are on the same wavelength as I am: happily married, a proud mother and a juggler of home and a career. When I say that a woman needs some TLC from her partner, it’s not necessarily in the material form. (Although an occasional bouquet of roses, a box of chocolates or cough-adiamondearring-cough from Mr. Husband every once in a while is very much appreciated). Simple gestures like a kiss and a hug, a smile, an honest “how was your day, honey?”, a foot massage, a back rub or perhaps offering to take over with the kids so that we get some time-off (“I’ll take care of the kids now so you can do some blogging, honey”) every now and then is very more meaningful and perfectly fit in the TLC category I am talking about here.
I think it’s absolutely necessary for a woman to get more attention and be pampered by her husband. After all, she deserves it. In any healthy marriage, a woman (working outside or working full time at home) is the one who is at the giving end. Can anyone fight this fact: both husband and wife get pleasure out of sex but it’s the wife who gives a child out of it! What about the area where most guys look at while talking to girls: the chest! To men, the breasts are just a woman’s attractive assets but a woman not only uses them to give delight to her husband but also to give food to her babies. Being the giver, I must say, is an inbuilt trait of any woman. It comes to us all naturally and we give it all so selflessly. But we are human too and life can be difficult for us too.
With all that on top of giving in to PMS blues and menopausal hot flushes, not to mention the constant people pleasing, it would be nice to get back some attention (without all the hinting). Come on, guys! We know you love us. So please, really listen when we have something to say, give us our due attention and always, always take our feelings into consideration. We’d really like to be appreciated for all the things we do because we do it genuinely. You know, all that would make us feel so much better and then we could go back to our natural selves and give and give some more!
No, I am not a bra-burner and this post is not at all intended to bicker on the outdated notion that men lead a better life than their female counterparts. I think we woman are so over that cliché now that it is globally recognized that a woman can lead a positively engaging life if she has a will to do so.
Yet, no matter how powerful, how busy, how talented or how an all-rounder a woman is, she needs attention, recognition and simply some TLC (tender loving care) from her partner. Well, let’s face it – there are many types of woman out there and I can only speak for those who are on the same wavelength as I am: happily married, a proud mother and a juggler of home and a career. When I say that a woman needs some TLC from her partner, it’s not necessarily in the material form. (Although an occasional bouquet of roses, a box of chocolates or cough-adiamondearring-cough from Mr. Husband every once in a while is very much appreciated). Simple gestures like a kiss and a hug, a smile, an honest “how was your day, honey?”, a foot massage, a back rub or perhaps offering to take over with the kids so that we get some time-off (“I’ll take care of the kids now so you can do some blogging, honey”) every now and then is very more meaningful and perfectly fit in the TLC category I am talking about here.
I think it’s absolutely necessary for a woman to get more attention and be pampered by her husband. After all, she deserves it. In any healthy marriage, a woman (working outside or working full time at home) is the one who is at the giving end. Can anyone fight this fact: both husband and wife get pleasure out of sex but it’s the wife who gives a child out of it! What about the area where most guys look at while talking to girls: the chest! To men, the breasts are just a woman’s attractive assets but a woman not only uses them to give delight to her husband but also to give food to her babies. Being the giver, I must say, is an inbuilt trait of any woman. It comes to us all naturally and we give it all so selflessly. But we are human too and life can be difficult for us too.
With all that on top of giving in to PMS blues and menopausal hot flushes, not to mention the constant people pleasing, it would be nice to get back some attention (without all the hinting). Come on, guys! We know you love us. So please, really listen when we have something to say, give us our due attention and always, always take our feelings into consideration. We’d really like to be appreciated for all the things we do because we do it genuinely. You know, all that would make us feel so much better and then we could go back to our natural selves and give and give some more!
